Children’s abuse – how to avoid it!

The subject of children’s abuse is not a pleasant thing for parents to think or talk about. They all say "it could never happen to me"; and they don't even want to talk about it. But for the benefit of our children, it is absolutely necessary to openly discuss this subject seeking some form of solution to the problem and be ready to handle it when it occurs to your child.

Child abuse can take four forms, all of which can cause long term damage to a child: physical abuse, emotional abuse, neglect and child sexual abuse. Bullying and domestic violence are also forms of child abuse.

A child may be experiencing abuse if he or she is:

· frequently dirty, hungry or inadequately dressed

· left in unsafe situations or without medical attention

· constantly "put down", insulted, sworn at or humiliated

· seems afraid of parents or careers

· severely bruised or injured

· displays sexual behavior which doesn't seem appropriate for their age

· growing up in a home where there is domestic violence

· living with parents or careers involved in serious drug or alcohol abuse.

All children have episodes of bad behavior, some more frequently and severely and others less. Using the next rules will help you to improve your child's behavior and to reduce the frequency and severity of any child behavior problem.

1) Show your love by taking time to listen, to play, and to teach. Of course, it’s absolutely impossible for you to watch or be with your children 24 hours a day, but they always should fell your support.

2) Be informed & attentive to your child's attitude, moods, and behavior; and then, respond to both good and bad behavior quickly. Talk to your child's teachers and counselors about his problems. Join a parenting support group or find a counselor for you to learn coping skills.

3) Planning is the secret of good parenting. It involves knowing your child, her temperament and skills, and knowing the challenges of her environment. Familiarize yourself with the symptoms of childhood emotional and behavioral disorders and treatment options. Use direct instruction, guidance, and practice opportunities to teach the skills she will need to cope with new challenges in the journey of childhood.

4) Don't Use Violence. Aggressive behavior increases in children after they witness violence at home, school, or in the media. Don’t allow your child to view violent programming or play violent games. Maybe it’s hurt today but if you start now it will be easier in future.

5) And the last rule, if there is something wrong with your child – never give up! Talk to him about his feelings and worries. Let him know that you love and support him. Convey your faith and confidence that he can cope successfully.